The Power of Self-Worth: Recognizing Your Value 

by Fitcoachion | Last Updated: June 22, 2020

We often hear of self-worth as necessary for forming a healthy sense of self-esteem and a solid self-identity. Self-worth is at the foundation for the concepts of self-acceptance and self-love. Without feeling a solid sense of worth or value it is difficult, if not impossible to feel worthy of love or acceptance from others.

The implications for a lack of self-worth are many. Those with limited self-worth are more vulnerable to experiencing toxic relationships and self-defeating behaviors which can include negative self-talk, avoidance of intimacy, comparing themselves to others or sabotaging relationships because of feeling undeserving of them. And, for anyone who has experienced an unhealthy or abusive relationship, they know all too well that the feelings of self-doubt that bubble up over time often get reinforced when staying in a toxic situation. Yet, because of their lack of self-worth or feelings of shame, they find themselves staying stuck in an unhealthy situation. 

Adults with a history of childhood neglect or abuse often struggle with insecure attachments throughout life, including issues in forming and maintaining a healthy sense of self-worth. Enmeshed, anxious-ambivalent, angry-dismissive or avoidant attachment styles are at an increased risk for diagnoses like depression, anxiety, and in repeating cycles of unhealthy relationship dynamics which perpetuate feelings of worthlessness or in lacking value. Similarly, those who are raised to not recognize their competencies or skills often struggle with feelings of worthlessness and low self-esteem throughout life.

10 Warning Signs that Self-Worth is Lacking

Building Self-Worth

Building or rebuilding self-worth is a process and requires dedication, commitment and a desire to recognize that you are a worthwhile person. 

Some tips in helping (re)establish a sense of worth include:


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